Drink no coffee, tea or alcohol. To get a temple recommend one must successfully undergo a recommend interview in which one meets with one’s bishop and another LDS Church leader (member of the stake presidency). Marriage is a multi-level arrangement. 5. Now, about the government: personally, I don’t think the government (the USA or any government) has any business getting involved in religious marriage ceremonies. At first she didn’t understand — she was unfamiliar with Mormon weddings in the U.S. All her family and friends were not LDS and they wanted to come to her marriage. Here are some quotes from the article "Marriage" in the Encyclopedia of Mormonism, vol. Required fields are marked *. There is a difference in how prior marriages/sealings are handled, based on gender. Fundamentalists either practice as individuals, as families, or as part of organized denominations. The alternative is to just be supportive. I realize that some people feel left out when they can’t attend the sacred union. Is that still in the current handbook? In countries such as England, or Brazil, where they do not recognize an LDS marriage in a temple as governmental, the church has to follow the laws of the land and thus the couple have that civil marriage and then go to the temple for the sealing without waiting a year. This is a work published under the supervision of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of the LDS church and produced in 1992 under the direction of an editorial board comprised primarily of BYU faculty and staff. It is disrespectful for one parent to be there and not another. Back a generation or two ago a ceremony was done and then a sealing separately. The article  quotes from the 1960 church handbook “Where couples deliberately refuse temple marriage for reasons of their own, and afterward desire a sealing, they should be asked to wait for at least a year in which to demonstrate their sincerity and worthiness to receive this blessing.” Hmmm, that does not make sense, considering that the rule is different in countries like Britain. To see their family commit to another publicly committing to them. The ring ceremony afterwards, at some other location does act as the civil ceremony and appears very similar. ksharp, you have many specific questions here. I found it interesting that in some countries (such as England) the government does not recognize a temple marriage as legal, and so couples must be married civilly first and then go to the temple to be sealed (Mormon lingo for married for eternity.) At the end of a year it must be renewed by undergoing another interview. This information includes quotes from the Encyclopedia of Mormonism. I want people to know about Jesus and that is pretty much it. It wasn’t made yet. Even Emma Smith would not consent to it. Perhaps it’s a good idea to let couples marry civilly first and then be sealed in the temple — that way you get the best of both worlds — the civil union and the sacred union —  it works in Britain. I don’t believe the lds faith is a cult. The reason is cause they didn’t want to wait a year and appear to be unworthy of the temple. A church member marrying for time only, because they are already sealed will have a ceremony in the ward building. Attend all church meetings. I know how to socialize and enjoy conversation, but I don’t usually look forward to big productions. so the temple is off limits. It’s a man made problem, not a problem of doctrine. People want to witness an actual ceremony that isn’t pretending to be a ceremony. If you are a non-Mormon or an unworthy Mormon you are not allowed inside an LDS temple and cannot attend the wedding ceremony even if you are an immediate family member of the bride or groom.]. It wasn’t until another Mormon friend of mine was married some years later (in 2005, I think) and noted either in her invitation or in a conversation why non-LDS folks were not allowed to attend her wedding that I realized what happened with our other friend when we were 18–that it wasn’t due to her or her family simply not wanting to see us. So, first, I try not to be too hard on the Church leadership when I see something, that — from my perspective — seems sill, stupid, unworkable, wrong, etc. It’s is sacred to you. You are welcome — but you would have to jump through “hoops” that you don’t believe. 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